Love Is: Let's Start With This!

Friendships, Marriages and Children.

The Right Kind Of Love means having the best God has for YOU! Don't stop reading because you saw the Word God. I am not talking about religion. I am talking about the supernatural! There is a love that has no boundaries! Try It! Your way has obviously not worked yet! If you are not going to be a believer maybe your partner is and you may be able to meet some of your partners expectations. Most of the time people just were never educated about proper way to love. Only what they have lived through life experiences and you see where that has you? Don't You see?
To love through Him and then to each other through Him brings His Anointing between you within the relationship of a marriage that will even amaze you and all those around you. The witness you have to each other will be altered, all around you people will want what you have. It is so supernatural and so Anointed that it is all in the Word of God.
Not the religious stuff. I mean the original language translations, Hebrew, Greek, Aramaic look up the truth. Study for yourself. God's gift for you was His Son and His Word. The Keys to love are in His Word, use those keys. Not just the laws. Seek the love between a man and a woman in His Word it can save all marriages! It can save all relationships. Love is really equal in marriage. Oh, yes even in the Bible.

Here is God's Plan

• Make a resolution to compromise!


• Apply non-threatening behavior at all times, so that both partners feel safe and comfortable, children included. ( Elevating your voices is only for emergencies. Life or Death situations. )


• Never raise your voice to a threatening tone. That's abuse.


• Mutual respect is non-judgement with emotional understanding and consideration.


• Support the goals of both partners in life together.


• Separate friendships and own activities are O.K. But pencil them in.


• Honesty and accountability for past and for the new future you works towards.


• Sharing and responsible parenting are a must in and from the Bible, that is not the wrath you want to fall on you from the Lord. (For every action there is a reaction)


• Mutual and shared work responsibility especially since everyone is usually working and or going to school. (An yes school is work. So are indoor jobs.)


• You must make money decisions together and get rid of all the credit living you can as fast as you can. Both have to benefit. You cannot live on partners income exclusively unless it is a mutual agreement. Separate accounts may be the answer and mutual accounts may be another answer or both to pay the bills. ( Personally the best marriages are usually where it is all in one pot. But if one partner has a problem with handling money then a separate bill paying account may be needed.)


• Each marriage has it's unique chemistry and falls under a special plan from God and if you can get into those Blessings from God you will probably be a millionaire at least once in your lifetime.


• You can move into all the Blessings if everything you live is under His covering, not just the laws that are convenient.


• Do your very best to provide some kind of health plan for your families, even if one person has to work for a corporation or larger company until you make life stable.


• Your children can then claim their inheritances. Not the curses. (i.e. poverty, abuse, etc.)


• Always remember what is happening in the lives of the children.


• You can always change. We are all changing everyday. Day by Day is how you live.


• Put something away for when you do get over 60 and plan on life's ups and downs.


• The both of you can have it all.

This is the nastiness that marriage and relationships are not?

Seek restoration or freedom if you are afraid of your partner. Can you express your opinions or feelings without fearing your partner's reaction or belittling? You should never have to ask to see your family or friends or to spend money for what is needed like food. You do have to confer with schedules to have time together. You should never have to make your environment and yourself into what a partner wants in order to avoid pain or belittling, emotional or physical. You should not be trying to please someone over and over only to be criticized for not doing or not doing it right. You should never feel like you are living with two different people, the one you know and the one everyone else knows! A light side and a dark side? You should always have communication so that you never feel confused about the way you perceive your relationship and the way your partner perceives your relationship. Do you believe all the terrible things your partner says about you, or accuses you, you shouldn't be dealing with behavior like that? These are the warning signs of abuse and the abuse will only get worse if you both don't seek help.

YOU ARE BEING ABUSED GET HELP! None of the above situations are irreparable and many can be helped if they haven't been carried too far! You may be the victim. You may be the abuser and don't know any better. Get Help. If you can't afford to write me and vent. But churches are frequently free counselors and keep searching until you find on that agrees with these views of what abuse is and is not. These are International views and simple Human Rights for people of all ages.

If you or your partner engage in slapping, punching,biting, pinching, and or the target of flying objects, called demeaning names, shaken,beaten, pushed, kicked, and denied proper medical treatments, i.e.immunizations, food, clothing, or your shelter, pressured or forced into sex acts. You need intervention and help to regain your respect and love for each other. Nothing less than love, That is what the Word says and those are International human rights. Now wake up and serve each other! Not the darkness. Look into your partners eyes and there you should find the light of Jesus, the light of love and the brightness of YOUR Partners eyes is a direct reflection on YOU! Surely it may have started as joking, but now it is an out of control situation. You must empower yourselves to change! Change is from within your own heart.

Do you or your loved one break your memento's or valuable or personal property? Accused of always flirting or having affairs and blaming your partner, unjustly? And I mean come on some are really having affairs and blaming your spouse? GET REAL! Serve each other. Are you allowed to work or get hounded at work by a spouse until you lose your job or focus and lose your employment? Live isolated from family and friends? Do you deny each other affection as punishment? Are you unable to show affection due to the way you have been treated? Left to walk dangerous areas at night? Punished by watching your children be abused? Get Help! Manipulated with constant lying and contradictions? Get Help! Talk to someone! Don't keep this kind of life a secret. There is help and it is free and you may get free. Free to treat and serve each other with real love and real respect.